Seriously.
Who in this entire universe doesn't regret something in their life?
No, go ahead to The Google. I'll wait.
That's what I thought.
If you are able to make it through an entire lifetime without regretting anything, I want to know what alternate reality that you lived in during that lifetime.
Now, I don't regret things that happened that were out of my control. There was nothing I could do to change the situation so I don't beat myself up too much for those. However, the ones that I could have actively done something about and didn't...absolutely, I regret them!
I regret not being a better friend. I regret not being a better mother. I regret not being a better wife, daughter, sister, etc.
Those wear on my heart intensely.
I'm sure I'm not the only one.
Whenever someone says that they have no regrets, I automatically assume that they are lying through their teeth. Maybe they truly do have no regrets, but I don't believe it for a second.
To live an entire lifetime and never want a do over on ANYTHING?
Hmmm.
I think that you should have regrets in your life. I really do. How are you supposed to learn anything if everything in your life is perfect all of the time? It's disingenuous to say that you have no regrets because as human beings, we all are always striving to do better, be better. I'm sure there is something you regret doing knowing you could have done it better or been better in that situation, right?
There is no perfect person in this world.
NONE.
So, unless you have a time machine to go back and change what you feel is a regret, then you are going to have to live with it. It's not a bad thing, it's just life. It is what it is. Life has twists, turns, complications, and yes, regrets.
It just shows that you are normal.
Whatever normal is, anyway.
The saying, "Live your life with no regrets" has always annoyed me beyond reason. I'm going to take my regrets and learn from them. That, at its core, is what life is about.
How about you? Do you have regrets? How do you deal with them?
Regrets... Not really, I look at them as learning moments and life lessons. Because if I hadn't made that choice I wouldn't have learned what I did. Do I wish some of the outcomes had been a bit different sure, but again I wouldn't have learned anything in the process.
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DeleteI think all my regrets fall into the minor to moderate category. Nothing major-thankfully! Stuff like I wish I wasn't so intimidated and insecure in high school as to not go out for cheerleading or volleyball. Regretting not leaving a job sooner. Although I consider all regret situations as I did what was best for me at the time, and I learned a lot from those situations.
ReplyDeleteOf course, there is no person who has a really perfect life. People are so different but everybody has regrets. It is very cool that you can share with us such information about your life experience.
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